Think about the last time somebody offended you—a co-worker, neighbour, friend, or family member. Chances are you thought they did it on purpose. That’s because you see things from your vantage point and infer the transgressor’s intent from his or her actions. Well, you’re not alone. In a recent study, “Impediments to Forgiveness: Victim and Transgressor Attributions of Intent and Guilt,” researchers found in over five different scenarios that “victims impute greater intent, less guilt, and reduced desires for forgiveness on transgressors than transgressor report experiencing.” In the result, there is no forgiveness. Conflict festers or even escalates. The remedy? It might surprise you: empathize with your transgressor. That way you’ll come to understand that he or she may not have intended you harm and may, in fact, crave your forgiveness. Download AdamsG_lmpediments_to_Forgiveness.